I think it started with my recent TEDx Talks-addiction. It's all I ever listen to at work, and it's affecting me so much. It does not even matter what the subject might be, if I find one I haven't already listened to, I will have in the next hour.
My favorite subject at the time is communications. All sorts of them. How to have great conversations, how to speak with body language, how to flirt, you name it. If it's in the area of conversation, consider me intrigued.
One thing that intrested me alot today was H.O.T A.P.E. I realize that that doesn't make much sense, but I will add the link to the talk at the end of this entry. Anthropologist Jean Smith talks about what 6 key-points it takes to let people know that you are flirting (and hopefully thanks to her, successfully) and also the other way around, how to know if someone is intrested in you.
These point are
- Humor
- Open Body Language
- Touch
- Attention
- Proximity
- Eye Contact
With these things in mind, you should make progress. Now honestly, I don't have trouble talking to people and I don't consider myself a "bad flirt". But who am I to judge? After all, I'm pretty biased regarding myself. However I can't recall my (IRL) flirting actually leading to a date or intercourse. I think I put a lot of weight on the other persons efforts. And of course it's crucial that the flirting goes both ways but I don't think I'm really pulling my weight.
And what can I do? I can try becoming a hot ape, which sounds ridiculous. Nevertheless, that's my mission for the weekend. I will try out this strategy, both drunk and sober, nighttime and daytime and see if my efforts pays off. And with that, I can't do more than get to work and hope to have something useful to get back with later. Here's the embedded video of Jean Smith.
